We are in a collective state of grief, which is expressed in many ways. Grief for our children and their development; grief for our family members and their health; and grief for our plans and our future selves. We grieve what might have been, which feels more like what “should have” been and we feel cheated, angry, and frustrated. And if we are lucky, particularly if we’ve had the benefit of some cognitive-behavioral therapy at some point in our lives, we know that the siren song of “should” is the foundation for the full gamut of negative emotions (i.e., anxiety, rumination, guilt, worthlessness) and we remind ourselves of what we have now, and focus on gratitude for what is.