SELF INTIMACY I can say that I am putting my best foot forward as it pertains to taking care of myself, living the life that I want, and doing what is most important to me. I feel that I maintain my sense of self and personal identity even though I have a partner in life. I spend adequate time taking care of myself, my personal hygiene, & my health (physical, mental, emotional). SPIRITUAL INTIMACY I feel that I have a sense of purpose in my life and that my life and how I live it has meaning. I feel that I have spent adequate time determining what my spiritual beliefs are. I can say that I respect and love all parts of myself, physically & spiritually. SEXUAL INTIMACY I have set non-negotiable boundaries & rules over how my body is to be treated by others, whether physically, sexually, verbally, or emotionally. I know my sexual preferences, likes, dislikes, and what I am curious about or open to trying with preferred individuals (homo vs. hetero vs. non-identified, serious vs. casual). I can identify at least 3-5 positive attributes that I bring to sexual intimacy. EMOTIONAL INTIMACY I feel like I understand my emotions, where they come from, & how to manage them. I am capable of allowing and feeling uncomfortable emotions and getting past them. I choose to utilize safe & smart stress management techniques when needed. FINANCIAL INTIMACY I feel like I have a healthy relationship with money & finances. I have a financial plan for my future, for both financial success & managing potential financial crises. I know what I value most, financially, in choosing a partner. FRIENDSHIP INTIMACY My current sphere of influence influences me in a positive way that propels my life forward. I feel that I show up equally for the friendships that show up for me the most. I feel valued for who I am by my current friendships. COMMUNITY INTIMACY I am confident in the amount of time I take to give back to my community. I enjoy the level at which I participate in advocacy, charity, outreach, social justice, and/or community initiatives. I am confident that both my digital presence and usage are productive, meaningful, and positively impactful on the digital community. CAREER & WORK INTIMACY I feel that my current job and/or professional line of work “suits” my unique skills, personal & professional attributes. I spend time on a routine basis checking in with my career & professional goals to make sure I stay on track with what I want out of my career & professional endeavors. I am confident in how I “show up” at work; this includes my professional appearance, how I take care of my workspace, and how well I interact & connect with coworkers, clients, vendors, & service providers. ACTIVITIES INTIMACY (Recreational, Aesthetic, Creative) I spend adequate time taking part in activities that bring me joy & that allow me to authentically self-express. I spend adequate time admiring nature & natural elements and beauties of the world, life, and human existence. I partake in sufficient activities that allow me to relieve stress safely, wisely, and effectively. HUMOR INTIMACY It is easy for me to experience joy and laughter. I spend adequate time experiencing joy and laughter. I know how to identify what brings me joy and laughter. INTELLECTUAL INTIMACY I spend adequate time learning and stimulating my mind & brain. I make the effort to learn about new things, stay current on relevant affairs, & increase my breadth of knowledge. I consider myself to be intellectually adequate, sexy, &/or desirable. COMMUNICATION (Crisis, Conflict, Forgiveness) I feel adequate in my ability to communicate my feelings, thoughts, & ideas to others. I feel worthy of forgiveness & I feel adequate in my ability to forgive others for mistakes. I feel confident in how I manage crises and conflicts that arise in my life. PARENTING INTIMACY I know where I stand on the topic of parenting; (want/don’t want children, adoption/surrogacy, natural/unnatural) I am confident in my financial, social, & emotional abilities to be a parent. I know what I value most & how to implement it in parenting.