My partner & I are comfortable sharing our personal values, beliefs, & religious views.

My partner & I demonstrate support over each other’s values, beliefs, & religious views.

My partner and I both prioritize spiritual intimacy.

I feel that my partner & I make a strong effort to spend quality time with each other.

I feel that my partner & I are able to vulnerably share our feelings, likes, & dislikes.

My partner & I both value maintaining a strong emotional connection with each other.

My partner & I often share experiences of beauty together, like nature, music, art, history, and worldly things.

We value having quiet nights together, creating meaningful memories with each other over spending time with friends.

We have the ability to admire each other's appearance without the need or desire to have physical, sexual, or romantic conflict with them.

My partner & I feel more connected when we spend time enjoying activities together.

My partner & I spend adequate time participating in recreational activities to either destress or feel closer to each other.

My partner & I enjoy engaging in play to enjoy time outside of work.

My partner & I spend adequate time working on our homefront together.

I experience more closeness with my partner when we regularly work together at home.

My partner & I are able to separate our work lives from our relationship, we leave our work stresses out.

My partner & I spend adequate time participating in advocacy, charity, outreach, social justice, and/or community initiatives.

I feel closer to my partner when we participate in advocacy, charity, outreach, social justice, and/or community initiatives.

My partner & I enjoy participating in advocacy, charity, outreach, social justice, and/or community initiatives together.

My partner & I spend adequate time creating things and/or cooking meals together because this makes us feel closer.

My partner & I enjoy creating things and/or cooking meals together.

My partner & I agree over which means of creativity work best for us to bond and connect.

My partner and I laugh together often and have fun just being in each other's presence.

My partner & I prioritize laughing & experiencing joy together.

My partner & I go out of our way to make sure that we prioritize and experience joy & laughter together.

My partner and I share ideas and concepts.

My partner and I demonstrate mutual respect for each other’s intellectual capabilities and viewpoints.

I feel that my partner and I spend adequate time having meaningful conversation about intellectual topics.

My partner and I prioritize having regular dates with each other.

I believe my partner and I are friends.

My partner and I choose dates that help us to remember why we fell in love with each other in the first place.

My partner & I prioritize active and reflective listening with each other when we communicate.

I feel confident that we can express our needs and wants to each other without leading to conflict in a safe and open environment.

My partner and I check-in with each other regularly to make sure that we are understanding each other and communicating sufficiently and efficiently.

My partner and I can have productive conversations about finances & what money means to each of us.

My partner and I have a shared plan for budgeting, spending, and saving.

My partner & I are in agreement over working toward similar financial goals.

I utilize appropriate techniques such as, “I” statements, sandwich and compromise methods, and reassuring touch (if needed and appropriate) when communicating to resolve conflict.

My partner & I prioritize resolving conflict with each other and making sure to not go to bed angry with each other.

My partner & I have expressed to each other what we do well when resolving conflict and we have communicated what we agree to do better.

I feel that when my partner & I are faced with a crisis, we are able to converse together, support one another and develop a plan together on how we will move through the crisis.

Up to this point, crisis has brought us together more often than it has torn us apart.

I am confident in our ability to handle crises.

I apologize to my partner when I know I have hurt his or her feelings and he or she accepts my apology without resentment.

When my partner apologizes to me, I accept his or her apology without resentment.

When needed in forgiveness, I have asked my partner, “how can I do better” or “how can I help?”

I hug, kiss and touch my partner when I feel my partner needs it.

I hug, kiss and touch my partner when I need to feel close to my partner.

I enjoy when my partner hugs, kisses, and touches me everyday even when he or she is not initiating sex.

I enjoy sexually pleasing my partner and my partner sexually satisfies me.

I understand my partner’s sexual needs and they understand mine because we have communicated it to each other.

My sexual drive is similar to that of my partner’s.

My partner and I are on the same page in raising our children.

I demonstrate my appreciation for what I feel makes my partner an amazing parent.

I feel good about my relationship with my children.